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When I woke up, I didn't assume that I would need to have the "Friendship Talk" with my daughter. I hate this talk. Not because having friends is a bad thing, but because sometimes having such good friends can lead to so much hurt in life, especially when you have no control over the situation, as is the case when you are a child.
Over the weekend, Abby's best friend moved.
This came as a bit of a surprise. But then again, maybe with everything we had going on with the holiday travel and then the colds, maybe we just didn't notice. And children, well, they are not always well informed on their parent's plans. It isn't necessary to worry your child with stuff that is meant for the adult to worry about.
What does that leave us with... two little girl's whose hearts are breaking.
For anyone who knows my daughter Abby, they will know that she is a kindhearted child. She loves hard and she gets hurt easily. And when it comes to friendships, she finds one really good friend and latches on hard. Therefore, when she is separated from that friend, she becomes devastated. It isn't that she doesn't have other friends, but she has just found that one person who she considers family, not just a friend.
I have to admit, I have been through this as well. When I was a child, my family moved and I lost friends because of it. Some I kept in touch with and others are nothing more than memories. As a child, we can't control these situations.
Some of these old friendships eventually ended up crossing my path again. Now thanks to technology, it is much easier to keep in touch and rekindle these old friendships.
But the thing that remains true... if you are truly meant to be in each others lives, your paths one day will once again cross.
It is a hard lesson to learn. But I truly believe that the people who are meant to be in your life will push through all obstacles to be in your life.
Aww, I am so sorry for your daughter Stacy. My heart was breaking for her when I was reading and she sounds a lot like my Emma, who has yet to go through losing a friend just yet, but could very much picture her reaction, because she too is so gentle and kind hearted. So, as a parent, I could relate and felt terrible.
ReplyDeleteMy hurt just aches for her. I know this situation all to well because I remember moving when I was in 4th grade and the devestation of having to make new friends all over again. When we moved, Abby was the one most hurt by it because she ended up losing her best friend. Now she finally found another one and her best friend moved. Luckily they both have cell phones so they can keep in touch.
DeleteIt's a good lesson, but a damn hard one. I'm sorry for your little girl. :( No fun.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard having to watch our children learn these tough lessons. Boo!
DeleteSo hard watching our little ones learn these hard lessons. They don't tell you about these bits in the baby books! x
ReplyDeleteI know - right - where is the section on that one! I hate seeing my kids hurt like this!
DeleteAw, Stacy, I'm so sorry Abby's bff moved. :( Did you find out where to or any contact information so Abby could send letters?
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a military family and we were always moving. Making friends was easy, saying goodbye to them was hard. And something I never really got over.
I hope Miss Abby finds a new good friend that will be sticking around for a long time. *hugs*
Her friend moved about an hour away. It won't be impossible for her to still see her but it is going to be a matter of both families working to keep that friendship going as strong. Luckily they both have cell phones. They were texting each other back and forth all day yesterday.
DeleteAs someone that was in the military, I can totally relate, but on a whole different level. I always felt bad for the kids who had to move away from their friends. It was one of the reasons we got out, so Abby wouldn't have to deal with it. I guess because we have two families that live so far away, it is a situation we will always be dealing with regardless. Can't shield our kids from everything. :(
Oh, man, that is so hard! My daughter gets *very* attached to just one friend, also, and is prone to heartbreak. I moved a lot as a kid and I can totally relate. Glad your kiddo has a wise mama like you to help her through it!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much. My middle child isn't nearly as bad. She makes friends easily so she is never lonely. I just hope she is able to find another classmate that she is close to at school like she was with this one. This is the first time since we moved that I really saw her get attached to another child since her last best friend. Seeing the move is hurting me almost as much as it is for my daughter.
DeleteAww, I'm sorry your daughter's friend moved away. It's hard when people move, like you said. I had some fun neighborhood friends and then we moved and they moved and despite technology, I've never been able to find them. :\ I wish we could reconnect. Give your little one a hug and thinking of you all. :)
ReplyDeleteOh that's so hard! I was like that too as a little girl and to this day, I have my childhood friends that I've kept in touch with -- even before Facebook came along! But, you are right, technology WILL make it easier for the two of them to maintain their friendship and even if they are not using social media yet, I'm sure they will be soon and they will fall into step with each other again, even if it's online. I agree that if the friendship was meant to last, they will cross paths again, but I get how it's so hard to watch your child go through that pain now. Sending her (and you) a virtual hug!
ReplyDeleteIt is a sad situation, Stacy. But, blessed is she that she experienced it in the company of her parents. They heal faster like that.
ReplyDeleteHugs to her!
Awwwweee... Stacy, I sure feel for your daughter and all she is experiencing right now. I've had to say "good-bye" to best friends several times in my life and it really never gets any easier. One thing that really helped me was to keep in touch and like you pointed out, technology today permits us to have an easier access in doing so. Big hugs to your daughter and to you who as her mommy sometimes just has to break the fall and hug until the hurt is a little less. ♥
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry she is going through this! It's so hard. I hope they are able to keep in touch at least a little bit. I know that's not the same. :(
ReplyDeleteMy heart feels for Abby, I'm sorry about what she's going through - that's got to be rough. My family moved when I was 13 - at that important stage in life - and I remember crying and crying, and feeling like my world was falling apart. Like you, I've also rekindled some friendships thanks to technology. Abby's lucky to have a mom like you - she'll get through it, might give her a chance to make friends with someone else who she didn't expect to.
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