Do you feel Fabulous?
Life is all about how you view yourself. And frankly, there are far too many people who are not too nice when it comes to how they talk and treat themselves. Well, it is time to change that! We need to look at ourselves in a different light. If we don't like what we see, how can we possibly expect others to like what they see.
Each one of us is different. Each of us has our own imperfections that make us who we are. The question is how do we view these imperfections. Do we love them or do we loathe them?
I have had to think long and hard about these very questions about myself. Mainly because I have always rode the weight loss rollercoaster and I have found regardless of where I get, I am still my hardest judge. Yet, I have two young daughters I have to look after and set a good example for. If they see me hating myself, then what are they going to follow?
When my husband and I decided it was time for me to stay home with the kids, I found I entered a whole different world. I was becoming the "frumpy housewife!" I stopped caring how I was looking because frankly, the only ones who saw me were my husband and my kids. The longer I kept this up, the more miserable I felt. Because I was out of people's eyes, I just didn't feel the need to put any effort into myself. It was a trap. I was falling hard into the world of hating my own imperfections. Yet, I know I am not the only one who occasionally feels this way or gets stuck in this negative mental rut.
It was time for me to start feeling a little differently. I needed to start feeling fabulous!
I realized it doesn't matter what others think; it only matters what I think. When I got my day going with a good workout, took a shower and put on my makeup, the day just seemed better. When I just put on some frumpy comfy clothes, I didn't feel motivated to get through the day. I needed to start the day off on the right foot!
I have always hid behind the excuse that I am not a girly-girl. There were clothes I would avoid in my closet because they were reserved for when I went out somewhere or people came to my house. Yet, I realized as I started dressing up a little more, even if no one would see me, that I felt good about myself. I wasn't the frumpy housewife and I could still turn heads. In my frumpy clothes, I often doubted myself. It wasn't what I looked like, but it was how I presented myself. And frankly, when you feel good about yourself, it isn't hard to feel fabulous!
So get out there... put on your best clothes... do something to your hair... apply the mascara you save for special occasions... wear those high heels... anything. But present yourself the way you want to be viewed. After all, you are fabulous. Now we just need to start believing it ourselves!
It's so true! When you don't see anyone other than your kids and husband it's easy to fall into the trap of frumpyness! Even just a little effort can make you feel better about yourself - ike putting on earrings or your favorite pair of shoes. :)
ReplyDeleteIsn't it amazing. I never realized how the aspect of getting ready for work was the most important part of the day. When you fall into routine... you just don't feel good about yourself when you don't take care of things most take for granted... like wearing your nice clothes! :)
DeleteStacy, so very true and as a fellow housewife can totally 100% relate to your whole article here. Wonderful job!!! :) :)
ReplyDeleteThank you. I never would have never even thought it was possible if I hadn't decided to stay home with the kids. When I worked outside, I always had my makeup. It was a nice break to take a day off!
DeleteGreat post! Almost every day after the kids go to school, I get dressed and go write at our local coffee shop (I call it my office) so that I have motivation to get out of the house, away from all those domestic distractions. And, if I can fit in the workout beforehand, all the better for feeling fabulous the rest of the day!
ReplyDeleteThat sounds like a great escape. Maybe one day I will take a few hours by myself, go to a coffee shop and just write. I am drooling over the thought of it right now!
DeleteCommit to be excellent!
ReplyDeleteAnd remember your fabulous! :)
DeleteYES!!! Absolutely agree with you here. My first day working from home I just put on comfy clothes and didn't bother much - because no one was seeing me. I felt horrible during the day - very strange. Now, I wake up - do my stretching, meditation and little prayer of thanks in the morning and then get ready for the day, and get dressed properly. No heels or anything, but decent enough so that if someone comes to the door I won't want to hide away. I love this post! It's so true - if you look good, you feel good and vice versa. Great job! Sharing all over :)
ReplyDeleteWell said. I notice that some days I seem to stay in my workout clothes all day. Basically because I worked up a good sweat and then if I am cleaning, is there really a point. But I make sure to try to take a shower after either getting the kids from school or right before. That is when my day ends and I consider my down time. So no major scrubbing after 3! :) And it has made all the difference!
DeleteLove it, Stacy! It's not about anything else but how we feel about and see ourselves. I still shower daily (I can't stand NOT showering), but my hair in my pony tail, and wear my favorite jeans. I skip the make-up cuz I never liked it anyway. But I refuse to sit around in expandable sweat pants and get sucked into that "frumpy" housewife depression.
ReplyDeleteSharing this excellent message! :)
Once I got into "frumpy housewife" mode, I found that I wore my yoga pants almost daily. I almost found myself dropping into a big depression. It is amazing how much better you feel when you actually put on real clothes! :)
DeleteHahaha. I was wearing my "outerwear" writer's uniform last night and we stopped at a fast-food restaurant (because we had gone to a meeting and it ended late...lol). We walk in and it seemed like the place was full of all these mechanic-dude-types. I was oblivious, but my husband was like, did you SEE everyone staring at you? I was like, um, no...I can hardly see anything when I have my little crochet hat on...just what's in front of me. He smiled, and it made me feel good, though. I can still turn heads, sans the frumpy wear. :D Awesome post! Good advice, too.
ReplyDeleteWork it if you got it! I love that feeling (even though I would never fully admit it to my husband) but when you turn heads when your hubby is around, it makes your hubby realize just how lucky he is! :)
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